I was re-reading FAT?SO! by Marilyn Wann earlier today and I just want to share something I forgot a long time ago. "Use the F-word." I did and, boy, do I feel free.
I used to fear being called out by some mean person. "hey, you're fat." But since I started using it liberally again, it's no longer ammo for any meany to make me feel akward. I'm comfortable. And if anyone is made akward by my being so non-chalant, that's too bad.
OK, just sharing.
I used to fear being called out by some mean person. "hey, you're fat." But since I started using it liberally again, it's no longer ammo for any meany to make me feel akward. I'm comfortable. And if anyone is made akward by my being so non-chalant, that's too bad.
OK, just sharing.
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Re: On fearing fat....
Tue, March 1, 2005 - 9:50 PMvery nice sugar
a step to
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Re: On fearing fat....
Wed, March 2, 2005 - 11:25 AMloving yourself is haaaaaaaaaaard! man oh man i'm just starting to get there and let me tell you, it's work! especially in our society where the ultra-thin look is shovedin our face as the way all should be. But i figured out something, it's all fake and totally bs! not to mention costs those people thousands/millions to look the way they do, and even though i'm FAT i still look goooood! oh yeah baby!!!
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Re: On fearing fat....
Wed, March 2, 2005 - 4:43 PMI try to use the word fat, and I like to, but if I EVER apply it to someone else they get really pissed off... it's such a taboo... -
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Re: On fearing fat....
Wed, March 2, 2005 - 6:42 PMit's their issue, faye, not yours.
i know this seems evil, but some times people deserve it.
there was this skinny chick i used to hang out with for a short while (depression makes you do idiotic thngs). she would obsess about weight loss and insinuate rude comments that i guess i was supposed to pick up on. you know, the kind that's supposed to make me feel bad about being fat. so one day, i called her fat and she freaked out.
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Re: On fearing fat....
Wed, March 2, 2005 - 7:11 PMyeah, you are right.
It's really scary how so many people don't even feel guilty about fat discrimination, they just don't take it seriously.
For example, I know people who would freak out because someone uses the word gay as an insult, but still use fat as an insult. Few people even question the treatment of fat people in our society... -
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Re: On fearing fat....
Wed, March 2, 2005 - 9:30 PMoh yeah
i know
it's sad
and um
you can
call me fat
any time you
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Wed, March 2, 2005 - 10:54 PMsame here, faye. feel free to call my ass fat.
it seems like the only people hollywood and most people can make fun of is fat people. -
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Re: On fearing fat....
Tue, March 8, 2005 - 8:12 PMI have a hard time not getting a little ticked off when a skinny person calls me fat. Tonight this this skinny chick that I hardly know gave me a lecture on how i have pretty eyes, but I need to slim down. kinda annoying...because I have been this shape since I was about 8. I am an active person..not everyone is naturally skinny and I am comfortable with myself the way I am. -
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Tue, March 8, 2005 - 8:14 PMor at least trying to be... -
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Re: On fearing fat....
Tue, March 8, 2005 - 9:54 PMyou look fine. you should try calling skinny girls who do that fat. watch their heads spin from confusion. it's kinda funny. -
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Re: On fearing fat....
Tue, March 8, 2005 - 10:38 PMYou're right!
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Tue, March 8, 2005 - 10:40 PMThis girl went on to brag on how she used to be skinnier than she is now...la lee la..would like to see what SHE looks like when she is 30
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Re: On fearing fat....
Mon, March 28, 2005 - 6:08 PMWe should be careful about thinking that only the fat-phobic are uncomfortable with the 'F-word' - not everyone that we encounter is in the same consciousness.
The word "fat" can be used in a affirmative fashion and still be misunderstood, just like other words that were/are traditionally used to malign the oppressed - even after an elite forms to co-opt such a word to desensitize a group against the sting, it may still yet offend members of the group. This doesn't mean that they're antagonistic - just not ready for such a semantic shift.
Skinny people calling me fat doesn't bother me any more, or any less, than anyone else calling me fat - I'm far more concerned with people's intent than their word choice. I'm down with the cause - but I don't presume that everyone is on the same page.... -
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Re: On fearing fat....
Wed, March 30, 2005 - 9:34 AMmaybe when someone
does that you have
such a pretty face lecture
you can say
i love who i am
and i am sorry
you can't accept that
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Re: On fearing fat....
Mon, April 4, 2005 - 11:38 PMwhoo!!!! thanks beebs... i hope i can remember to say that and have the guts to the next time the moment arises.
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